Chris told me that we would tell pastor on Friday after service. By this time, I was tired of arguing so I didn't object. And sure enough when service was over, he walked to pastor and asked if we could meet with his wife and him. Pastor said that he needed to get his daughter but it's ok. I quickly intercepted and said, "It's alright pastor, we can meet with you later". But that didn't work and he said oh no, come on. So we all walked to his office and we sat in front of the two of them. And then pastor asked what was going on. I can't remember verbatim what my husband said but it was along the lines of, "my wife is expecting!". Pastor and First Lady both congratulated us and my husband quickly added, "but we are not telling anyone else yet". So they agreed to not say anything and my husband said, "she's 4 weeks". And I corrected him (in hindsight I don't think I should have) and said, "actually I'm 5 weeks. Our first appointment is on Feb 1 and then we will get an ultrasound done and make sure baby is doing good". We also told them that we hadn't even told our parents yet.
Some how, I mentioned to First Lady that I didn't want to work after the baby was born. And she added that if you can do that, it will be so fulfilling and it's a wonderful thing. And pastor hurried and added but the two of you need to discuss it because finances are the number one reason for break-ups. He was totally right by adding that in it. So hubby and I've been talking about that a lot lately. I've wanted to be a stay-at-home mom to my children since before I can remember. Not indefinitely, but ideally until they start Preschool. At that age, they can tell mommy and daddy if someone hurt them whereas if they are small, they cannot voice it. And I want nothing more than to be able to protect my children.
So anyway, this subject has definitely been up for quite a lot of discussion. We both have valid reasons and I pray that the Lord will lead us in this decision.
